Self Love

The definition of love: a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection.

It is not easy to describe in words but we know it is that warm fuzzy feeling that sometimes makes us……. lightheaded.
When you are high in love you have the biggest smile, even your eyes smile and when you are low on love it feels like burning needles to your heart.

Love is the emotion that is the seed to other growing emotions like anger, sadness, happiness. Love is a chemical concoction that sometimes leave scientist baffled.
Love can heal, console, strengthen, make change happen. Could it be the answer…?

The challenge is: it is not easy to love authentically if we don’t love ourselves unconditionally.

Self love is the instinct by which one’s actions are directed to the promotion of one’s own well-being.
Reflecting on last months intention, have you started to implement some small changes to take better care of you? Have you started to increase your self love?

When we talk about self love, it is not the narcissistic ‘Aren’t I fantastic’ kind of love.

It is the regard for yourself that empowers you to navigate through life, feel safe and secure in WHO you are and inspires you to make choices that are good for YOU. Loving yourself means more than feeling good about yourself or being kind to yourself –

  • it’s about being self-confident,
  • being able to express yourself without fear,
  • being unconcerned about whether you’re liked,
  • and about living your own life, not someone else’s idea of what your life should be.

It is about knowing that I am me, right here, right now…..
I love and accept myself unconditionally!

The brain is “neuroplastic,” which means it’s always changing. It changes in response to what you learn, what you do, what you experience, but also on account of what you think and, importantly, how you hold and move your body. Learning the body language of “I am enough“ is one way of helping alter the emotional architecture of the brain, specifically in the areas that control how we feel about ourselves.

When you find yourself lacking in self-love, feeling unworthy you can change the feeling through either changing your thinking or action. You can practice holding and moving your body in a way that says,
“I am enough,”
“I matter,”
“I am important,”
“I’m worth it,” –  do a Superman/ woman Stance.

The practice quite quickly affects how you feel and therefore how you behave in challenging sitautions.

As David Hamilton in his book, I heart Me, advises – Go and visit the Self Love Gym every morning and use your body to wire self love in your brain.

Go out, be more intentional and Love Yourself!